Name: Evelyn
Location: Seattle
Email: ejpt@home.com
Ten years ago a good friend lost her 14 year old daughter in
a tragic car accident. It was sudden and devastating to my friend
and she was beside herself with grief (as were many of her family
and friends). One day, a few days prior to the funeral, my friend,
another friend and myself were at my friend's house which was
extremely quiet as we were all lost in our own private thoughts
in the living room while looking at pictures of the young teen.
Without warning, a radio in the bedroom came on and the song,
a favorite of hers and her child, "Free Bird" came
on. We listened to the song all the way through with tears streaming
down our faces and stunned that this was happening. When the
song was over, we all went to the bedroom and examined the radio.
It had previously been shut off and the alarm was set for early
in the morning for the radio to come on. When this event occurred,
it was late afternoon! We all found the words to that particular
song so comforting in our deepest moment of grief and pain. This
incident led us on to a spiritual quest for answers which we
found in books by George Anderson, John Edwards, Edgar Cayce,
Melvin Morse and many others. Four years later, my beloved father
died. Within a week after my return, totally devastated, my friend
talked me into going to a local tv show which had George Anderson
as a guest. We were extremely late and signs said latecomers
would not be admitted. Yet, we were ushered into a standing room
only area in which audience members were even seated on the far
corners of the stage. When Mr. Anderson did a general discernment,
the questions narrowed down to me! He assured me that my dad
was "all better" now. I can't describe the peace and
comfort that gave me. I find dimes from my dad all the time.
Name: Helen M. Fisher
Dear Evelyn. Thank you for sharing your very special experiences.
Electronics do seem to play a definite part in communication
from beyond, as I have heard many stories similar to yours. There
is no so called "logical" explanation as to how a radio
set to come on at a later time can turn on by itself and play
a favorite song at a time when it is most needed and then turn
off. This type of happening definitely gets your attention. I
also feel that you were guided to the TV show where George Anderson
was appearing. As more and more people feel that it is safe to
share their similar experiences, after-death communication will
become accepted as a normal part of our existence and not something
to be feared or described as "wishful thinking" on
the part of the bereaved. It is the most wonderful gift of knowledge
a person could ever receive. Peace and love, Helen
Name: Sarah Mulcahy
Location: Dickinson, TX
Email: dustbunni1@aol.com
I found your site while looking for information on contacting
George Anderson. Between 1987 and 1996, my brother, father and
mother died. In each case, I had a premonition of their death,
and I have seen both my brother and my father at least twice.
My mother and I were estranged at the time she died. I had hoped
fervently that she would tell me why she hated me. My mother
was always abusive to me, physically when I was young and emotionally
when I was older. Most of my life, I would do all kinds of things
to try make her at least like me. Our estrangement was caused
when she was offering $500.00 to anyone who could find something
bad about me to get me arrested. At one point she said that she
wished I would die. The day before she died, I had a premonition
to contact her although we hadn't spoken in 18 months. Her daughter
from a previous marriage answered the phone and told me Mother
was fine but that she never mentioned my name or gave any indication
she thought about me. I asked her if Mother had ever told her
why she didn't like me and she said that all she knew is when
I was brought home from the hospital as a newborn I cried alot.
She seemed to think it was normal to hate a crying baby for the
rest of it's life. I have never had any contact from Mother since
she died. The way she treated me really affects my relationships
with other people and my ability to trust. I need to know why,
even if it's a stupid reason at least there would be an answer.
Do you know anyone that could help me? God bless you, Sarah
Name: Helen M. Fisher
Dear Sarah. My heart goes out to you on your many losses. I can't
adequately express how sorry I am at the treatment you received
from your mother. Do not blame yourself for her actions. I will
be e-mailing you with a suggestion or two. Thanks for writing.
Peace and love, Helen.
Name: TomVanHam
Location: Joliet,Il.
Email: TomVH54@aol.com
It is about my father-in-law. My wife and I were very close with
him.He passed away 2 1/2 yrs. ago. He and I would do all the
fatherly things you would do with each other. I took care of
him when he was very ill. He comes to me more in a smell. My
wife has dreams about him. She has even seen him. She took this
very badly. It took two years before she would accept his death.
I think by him comming to us she feels more comfortable. We have
been watching John Edwards show Crossing Over. This is very enteresting
to us.I do believe life after life. My father-in-law showed my
wife in a dream he was in a place that you would think is the
most bueatiful place, rolling hills ,real green grass. When we
where out in South Dakota last year we thought we came across
something similar on our way to Devils Tower in Wyoming. My wife
was coming home from work oneday and saw a liscense plate with
the letters PAZ it was my father-in-laws nick name. Last month
we were on our motorcycles heading up to Wisconsin. Before we
left I took my bothers picture out and asked him to watch over
us and to let us have a safe ride. He passed away two years ago
of a real bad car accident. On are way back from the rally we
were on the expressway and a banner on a building caught my eye
it read Fred's Towing service. I have never in my life seen any
thing like it before! I knew then he was telling me he was with
us. Then just last week I did a major fundraiser for the Wish-Upon-A-Star-Foundation.
The Chicago paper sent a free lance writer down to do a story
on it. I was waitng to see what it said but I did not Know when
it was going to be published. I had called my cousin on Tuesday
to see if it was in the paper he looked and said no. I thought
well it has to be in Wendsdays. I do not recieve the paper so
I would not know. I was leaving for work Wed. morn and I notice
this paper wrapped in a blue wrap. I thought that this might
be the tribune and why would I get one? I came home from work
and it was still there. I went to get it and it was the tribune.
I quickly opened it and found the metro section and to my surprise
was the article on the motorcyle event I did. Just to let you
know the Tribune was my father-in- laws favorite news paper to
read. I think that he had that paper sent to me. It was bizarre.
To much of this happens to us now. We get messages from other
loved ones who have past on also! We have a friend of ours her
daughter thinks she is a freak because she has a sixth sense.
She sees dead people all the time. They definetly come to her.
Some of her storys are pretty wild.Thank You TomVanHam
Name: Helen M. Fisher
Hi Tom. Thanks for sharing your great experiences. It is amazing
how the "coincidences" pop up at just the right time,
isn't it? I liked the license plate letters PAZ. I remember stopping
and letting a car come out of a shopping center and was paid
back by seeing that their license plate read ERINN. One extra
"N" but it still spelled my daughter's name. We live
in an area that is very cold and snowy in the winter so when
we moved here in early 1998 we bought a jeep. It was about a
month later that I realized the numbers on the plate were 868,
the month and year of Erin's birthdate. It is amazing how this
can happen, and I have no idea of how it does, but it certainly
makes life more interesting. Your friend is not a freak, she
is blessed with her gift of sixth sense. I hope her daughter
realizes that some day. My guess is that the daughter is frightened,
as so many people are of what they can't understand. Thank you
again for posting to this page. It helps everyone to read of
the experiences of others. Peace and love, Helen.
Name: Leah
Location: Ky.
Email: LPikeBaby@aol.com
Web Site: www.inet123.com/brooklyn
Dearest Helen, I would first like to say that I too commend you
for your compassion. We have spoken before of one experience
that I had recieved from my baby girl, Brooklyn. I feel Brooklyns
presence around me all the time. I do have something that I wish
to share... I was able to stay home with my darling Brooklyn
for the first year. I had just gone back to work approximately
four months before the accident. My Aunt had opened a daycare
and I jumped at the chance to work for her, most importantly
because it meant that I could still be with Brooklyn all day
and at the same time earn a living. It was a dream come true
for any mother. Shortly after I began working there, I started
to recieve many experiences with de ja vu. I could never fit
the pieces together. They became somewhat disturbing coming more
and more frequent, sometimes through out the day. I felt that
it was necessary to inform my aunt, my mother, and Brooklyns
dad. They continued until the accident and it was at that time
that the de ja vu subsided. Six days later as we would be at
my daughters visitaion, I experienced yet another, and it would
be at this time that I realized that they were connected. With
all that would come to me in the four months prior, I could never
get a picture. As I had taken a break and gone to the water fountain
to take some pills, I would raise my head and actaully see what
I had seen before. There is no way to possibly describe the exact
feeling, but I can tell you that at that very moment, the feeling
of confirmation, that they were all connected was as strong as
ever. I continue to this day, having these experiences. I think
that it goes along with my belief that everyone here has a purpose
to fulfill. I already know in my heart what Brooklyns purpose
is as well as my own. I could have been taken that very day too,
but I was left here to do the obvious of what I know to be as
our purpose. Another quick story that goes beyond a doubt of
proof our destined time here on this earth. My grandmother had
gone to a medium approximately ten years ago. That particular
medium had told her that she saw an auburn haired woman standing
over the casket of a child. Who would have thought that ten years
later, it would become fact. With Love and Understading Leah
Mommy to Brooklyn Faith 12-6-98 - 4-12-00
Name: Helen M. Fisher
Dear Leah. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and experiences.
I, too, believe we have a purpose to fulfill while here on Earth.
After Erin made her transition, I was overwhelmed with a constant
feeling that I was supposed to be doing something. Once I started
writing "From Erin with Love" that feeling subsided,
only to come back again after the book was finished and on the
market. This time I knew instantly what it was--the writing of
another book, but this time it would go in a different direction,
towards environmental concerns. And that is what I am working
on at present. My premonition of Erin's death came many years
before, while I was still in the delivery room. As I looked at
her I was overcome with dread that I would lose her some day.
That feeling lasted for the first year of her life. It would
have been more logical to have that emotion after the birth of
our first daughter because she followed a miscarriage. (Several
different mediums have indicated that Erin is with her brother,
the son I miscarried.) My husband wouldn't keep any of our pictures
in his wallet because he had the feeling if he did something
would happen to one of us. And, believe me, this is not like
this very analytical and logical man. It was as though both of
us knew at a subconscious level what would eventually transpire.
Erin has said, through a medium, that it was not her choice to
go, but that in seeing the full picture she was more than willing
to have done her part. My heart goes out to you, Leah, on your
loss. I am so very sorry. Peace and love, Helen.
Name: Carol
Location: Maryland
Email: CFox759211@aol.com
Dear Helen - I came across the link to your website while visiting
George Anderson's site. I must say that I have really enjoyed
reading everyone's post. I must also say that I urge anyone who
is dealing with grief in losing a loved one try to arrange an
appointment with George. I just went to a small group on 10/10/2000
and it was fantastic. My dad died in 1983 at the age of 51 and
my cousin died last year at 47 yrs. old. I have always wanted
to believe in life after death and started doing a lot of research
on the subject after my father had a NDE a week before he actually
passed. I needed definite proof, however, so I made an appointment
with George along with a co-worker who lost both of her parents
on Egyptair Flight 990 last year. Just like you, the immense
sense of comfort and relief knowing that they are truly there
and with us at all times was worth the long trip. I feel such
peace now and I too feel that this has enlightened my spirit
as to why I am here. If only everyone on earth could experience
this type of revelation, there truly would be heaven on earth.
One more thing --- I just read your post where you state that
you have started writing another book regarding environmental
concerns. Could you please let me know when it is published.
My son is what I consider a spiritual person and is extremely
upset at what we are doing to the planet. I would love to give
it to him as a gift. Thanks.
Name: Helen M. Fisher
Dear Carol, thanks so much for posting to this page. I'm glad
that your experience with George Anderson was a positive one.
I will always be so grateful to him for giving validation to
our own experiences. I heartily agree with you that it would
be wonderful if everyone on earth could experience this type
of revelation, as I believe it would also lead to respect for,
and a lasting peace, on planet Earth. I will make a note of your
e-mail address and let you know when my next book has been published.
It will be some time, so if you make a change of e-mail address,
please let me know. Peace and love, Helen.
Name: Carol Rhodes
Location: Oregon
Email: tm@rvi.net
Web Site: http://www.jccomp.com/~trichter/tanya/
My heart goes out to you. It is wonderful that you wrote this
book and that you offer this on line site. Yesterday I sent you
two of the adc's I've had with my daughter Tanya. There is one
that I would like your opinion about. I found a slip of paper
that Tanya had written on about wanting to buy her best friend
a birthstone ring for her bithday. I placed this note in my jewlery
box. One day while talking with her Kim on the phone I went to
get this to read to her. I opened the box and there sat a braclet
that I know was on her arm when we buried her. I asked Kim what
jewlery she rememberd Tanya having on. Kim said your diamond
& ruby pinking ring that Tanya always loved, her rings she
always wore, and the fake peal braclet that her aunt made for
her. That was the braclet I was staring at. I started calling
family. On sister could not rememberer, the other sister said
a pear type braclet, ect. My mom could not remember but offered
to pay for me to talk with someone. I know this sounds strange
but three of us remember her having it on. Do you think they
can do this? I can not wait to receive Erin's boook. I ordered
it off the net. Hugs, Carol
Name: Helen M. Fisher
Hi Carol, thanks for sharing your story with all of us. This
happening with the bracelet is truly amazing. I'm certain that
you would not forget something as important as that bracelet
being buried with your daughter. How it got into your jewelry
box is truly a mystery. I know that certain items have shown
up in strange places in my home, but nothing as amazing as what
you have experienced. But perhaps this isn't any more amazing
than phones ringing and a loved one saying goodbye at the exact
moment their death occurred elsewhere. I have had letters from
people who find items out of place in their homes and items appearing
where they hadn't been before. This would be transportation of
energy from one place to another, but how this could be accomplished
I simply don't know. The fact remains that Tanya was wearing
this piece of jewelry when she was buried, and now it has shown
up in your jewelry box. Carol, my deepest condolences for the
Earth loss of your daughter. Peace and love, Helen.
Name: Debbie Alimentato
Location: Rochester NY
Email: SamAlimentato@aol.com
My 16 year old son, Sam recently passed away from non-Hodgkins
lymphoma on December 22, 2000. Although I prayed for a miracle
for him to live, he would have never been the same kid. He would
have never been able to do all of the things that made him happy,
like cutting the grass or shoveling the snow because he was so
weak and the chemo damaged every organ, especially after having
two bone marrow transplants. Sam died at 3:47 am. Later that
day at 10:00 am I was looking out the front window and I saw
hundreds of birds nosediving for bushes around the small ornamental
tree in our front yard. They were coming one on top of the other,
it was incredible. Then there was one bird in the tree and all
the others were on the ground. They they all flew away as if
Sam were to say, "I'm free. I'm with all the others and
I'm okay." My neighbor across the street saw the birds and
she said there were thousands on our rooftop. It was completely
covered with birds.
Name: Helen M. Fisher
My dear Debbie, I can't adequately express my sorrow on the recent
Earth death of your son Sam. You are so very new to this journey
of grief. How well I remember being where you are right now.
I loved the story about the birds. They were a perfect symbol
for Sam. Sam is truly free and he is okay. Of that I feel quite
certain. Thanks so much for sharing this with all who frequent
this page. I am so very sorry for all Sam had to endure during
his illness, and for all you and your family have experienced
since. My heart goes out to you. Peace and love, Helen.
Name: Sudie
Location: Atlanta, Georgia
Email: sudiea.gordon@energizer.com
Dear Helen: I very much appreciate your website. I recently lost
my son, Samuel on 12/10/00. His death certificate reads "suicide."
He had just turned 15 and was not ill and had no "apparent"
problems with grades, girls, etc. Some of us believe he was playing
around with the gun in front of a bathroom mirror and it was
an accident. My excitement about your site and book is that you
have signs from Erin of afterlive. I just want to know what happened
to my Samuel. Was he so depressed he took his life or was it
a "fatal" accident he would reverse if he could? I
am lost and in so much grief but have the peace of our Heavenly
Father. I just want a sign from my Sam that he's okay and what
happened. What words of wisdom can you give our family. God Bless
all that you are doing for so many. Though we are strangers,
we share a common bond as parents knowing the loss of the loves
of our live.
Name: Helen M. Fisher
Dear Sudie, I send you my love and my condolences. It is difficult
enough when we know the reason for our child's death, but it
must be excruciating for you and your family with all the unanswred
questions as to why and how. Be patient about receiving a sign
from Samuel. They usually happen when least expected. Pay attention
to unusual or out of the ordinary events that happen in your
daily life. Often the signs are of a subtle nature. It took quite
a number of years before my Erin came to me in dreams, so be
patient. But do ask Samuel to come to you in this way. Some bereaved
person have signs come from animals, birds, or insects, such
as the butterfly. Some have experiences with radios, stereos
or TVs turning on by themselves. Some have had meaningful songs
come on the radio at the exact time they are thinking or speaking
of their loved ones. If it helps, I have no doubt that death
as we know it is but a transformation to another form. As scientist
Werner Von Braun states, "Nature does not know extinction.
All it knows in transformation." Peace and love, Helen.
Name: Joy
Location: Washington State
Email: joye@whidbey.com
I was told by a psychic that I would experience many losses in
the year 2000. I kind of forgot about it, but it's all come true.
I lost all three of my animals (who were like my kids) within
three months of one another. I had gotten them all the same year
in 1986 from the man I was living with at that time. Then, in
December of 2000 (3 mos ago), that same man, Timothy, died unexpectedly
from a heart attack at age 43. Although we were no longer living
together, we remained close, not only geographically but emotionally.
I had known Tim my whole life. Losing him and all my animals
(which he brought me) in the same year was totally devastating.
What makes it hard too is because I am with another person now,
I've been unable to express my pain and grief in the presence
of this person, because he didn't like me still remaining friends
with Tim. It's been very hard. What's strange is the week after
he died, I met like three people named Tim, and at my work I
had to write letters to people named Tim, and everytime I turned
on the TV, I heard the name Tim. So, I'm hoping that Tim is trying
to contact me that way. It helps a little bit. Also, the day
of his funeral which was in December, the sun came out and it
was like a spring day, when we had had a storm the day before
and the power was out. If I recall, I also think I saw a butterfly
at his gravesite. I didn't think much about it at the time being
so grief-striken, but thinking about it afterwards is amazing
- a butterfly in December! I have read many books since Tim's
death, including George Anderson's, and I have just ordered your
book, so I'm looking forward to reading that also. My Love to
Tim Always - Joy
Name: Helen M. Fisher
Dear Joy. It's interesting that you wrote about seeing the name
"Tim" over and over in many different aspects of your
life, because this morning I was speaking with a friend and she
mentioned that her son's name was everywhere they turned. I truly
believe this is one way that we are reminded that our loved ones
are nearby. Not that it means something every time we see their
name, but when it shows up often enough that it really starts
to get your attention, then I do believe it is no longer sheer
coincidence. No, Joy, butterflies don't usually show up in December.
I think you were given a wonderful gift. Thanks for sharing your
experience. I am very sorry about your losses. Peace and love,
Helen.
Name: Diana Olson
Location: Pasadena, California
Email: olsonco465@aol.com
Web Site: www.memorialjewelry.com
I am eager to read your book! We lost two daughters in an airplane
crash in l976. Through our association with The Compassionate
Friends, we designed memorial jewelry in memory of Lori, age
10, and Heather, age 7. The "Forever Together" jewelry
is in l4k or Sterling Silver. It is a heart pin/pendant with
a butterfly, signifying the child that has been lost. I would
love for you to look at it, see what you think. Butterflies are
on our other jewelry, too. Perhaps, we could consider a mutual
link. We are also linked with Melvin Morse. Compassionately,
Diana Olson
Name: Helen M. Fisher
I am so very sorry for your loss. I went into your web page and
your jewelry is lovely. The "Forever Together" pin/pendant
is beautiful, as is all the jewelry displayed. What a beautiful
memorial to your daughters. I will be contacting you via e-mail
sometime in the next few days. Peace and love, Helen.
Name: Kathy
Location: Southern CA
Email: bkgiambra@aol.com
Helen: I have things to share with you, but when I have more
time. My daughter Gina suicided on 11-24-99 at the age of 29.
I have had 2 dreams, her sister has had many, my husband is connected
with Gina with music.....and we all (including many who didn't
know of her death when it happened) are connected with the beautiful
sunsets that she loved so much. Just recently I got an email
from someone in WWA and she has connected us up with information
that has been coming to a member. Soothing words for us from
Gina. Initially when asked....I took things at surface level....then
I got deeper and realized it was something more. The next evening
I shared the emails with my husband, and rather than thinking
I was a NUT, he started crying.....and said he thought that this
was from our Gina. The following day, I shared these emails with
my other daughter and she believes that this is Gina's spirit
connecting up with us (as she has for such a long time in her
dreams). We all said ......we've never died....we don't know
"for sure" about the other side, therefore we are open.
There have been too many coincidences in my life...after my mother
died....right before my father died....the morning before Gina
died. Feelings, thoughts and some things that I acted upon. I
do believe that our bodies are only temples for the spirit. We
are familiar with this form of life here on earth, and when someone
"passes on" the pain is great. I do think that depending
on how a life has been lived.....the spirit moves elsewhere.
I know that Gina is fine, and so is my mother, and so is my father.....as
well as my mother-in-law. Different things have happened to me
to let me know this is true. My husband and daughter are both
VERY LOGICAL....the "show me" types.....and they believe
that Gina has been connecting up with them. My husband has cried
out since he was angry when he saw her and yelled at her. After
getting the email from a WWA person, and when I read it to him......he
cried.....and told Gina....."honey, I know it was a mistake...I
set you free! Please forgive me....." Though we will always
miss our sweet Gina, I feel that we were blessed with 29 years,5
months and 11 days with a wonderful child/woman.....and many
will never know that pleasure. She also enjoyed a loving family
and friends and numerous experiences in such a short life. Love
to our special Gina....
Name: Helen M. Fisher
Hi Kathy, thanks for sharing with all who read these pages. My
heart goes out to you. I am so very sorry. As you probably know
I am also a member of Walking With Angels--WWA, an online support
group for those who have lost children. It is wonderful that
you and your family are experiencing and recognizing the signs
that Gina is sending to you. What you are describing that you
call coincidences are what I call synchronicity, very meaningful
coincidences. In fact I'm of the mind that there are very few
random happenings in our lives. I am a firm believer in the interconnectedness
of all matter. I also believe we are not our bodies, we merely
reside in them. You were indeed blessed to have your very special
Gina in your lives, even if it was for far too short a time.
As you have time, please feel free to share your experiences
with all who frequent this page. I know everyone would be interested
in reading them. Peace and love, Helen.
Name: Sherri
Location: Los Angeles, Ca.
Email: sheredwrds@aol.com
On March 30th of this year my Mother died of cancer. I was with
her the day before and while she could not speak a full thought,
she was able to answer questions with yes or no answers and limited
speech. I was not with her when she died, I had my Father place
the phone next to her ear while she was taking her last breaths.
I told her how much I loved her. I hoped she heard me. Since
then I have wanted to feel her presence but haven't. We were
very close. I had just had her 1st Grandchild on Jan 29th. 9
weeks later she was gone. I have dreams but none involve my Mother,
the funeral or her illness. I want so badly for her to show me
something, a sign, a dream. Instead my baby has acted different
since my Mothers passing. While I was on the phone listening
to my Mother die, I also was listening to the minister say The
Lords Prayer to her. I also said the prayer along with her. At
this time I reached over and held my daughters hand. My daughter
went completely still and quiet and was mesmerized by something
in the opposite direction from me. She never made a sound. Not
normal for a 9 week old baby and enough of an event for me to
take notice of while I was on the phone listening to the minister.
Since that day, the bay will glance off and stare over my shoulder,
looking at the ceiling. There is nothing there to keep her attention
as a picture or curtains or wall colors. I would like to believe
that she sees my Mom. Or am I just grabbing at straws? Most have
suggested that my Mother made her presence through my baby that
day. Kept her quiet while I grieved. I'm not sure what to think.
I very much want to know that my Mom is fine and happy, yet I
can't understand why I don't "feel her". Am I still
too close to the grief and sorrow which causes her not to be
able to come through to me? I have had many dreams predicting
an outcome before it happens. I dreamt 1 1/2 years ago that my
Mom would die of cancer. My dreams seem to happen early enough
for the outcome to be different if the subject does something
about it. My Mom didn't listen. I also dreamt of my Dad's heart
attack (not fatal) 6 months befoe it occurred as well. But dreams
after the fact seem to escape me. Please provide your insight.
I'm deperately searching for closure and answers. Thanks so much,
Sherri
Name: Helen M. Fisher
Dear Sherri, I'm so sorry about your mom. Don't expect too much
too soon in the way of signs from her. It was several years before
I had what I consider to be a visitation dream. But do pay close
attention to anything unusual that butterflies and birds do.
If you're thinking about your mom and you are swooped by either,
it's a good chance she directed them. Butterflies, especially,
have a way of appearing in our lives at just the right moment.
Last year when my dad was in the hospital I had butterflies fly
around me, and they were a type of butterfly I had never seen
before or since in our yard. My thought when I saw themwas that
I was being prepared for my dad's death, which did ultimately
occur. Now to your baby, yours is not the first I have heard
of baby's and young children being aware of a spirit nearby.
One baby would start to laugh as if someone was tickling it.
Confirmation of this came through in a read the mother had later.
I also know of a young child who actually sees her uncle. She
was only 18 months at the time he made his transition. She is
now between 4 and 5 and talks about seeing and talking to him.
And often their dog has been staring or barking at something
unseen at about the same time. There is just so much we humans
still have to learn about reality. Yes, I think there is a very
good chance your baby is seeing her grandmother. And on the other
hand, I have no doubt whatsoever that her grandmother is seeing
her. Peace and love, Helen.
Name: Debbie
Location: Winder, Georgia
Email: debbie_horne2000@yahoo.com
I just recently lost my treasured husband to cancer. He had been
suffering from cancer and the chemo he was taking, and passed
away at home. He had been in pain with his back, so he was sleeping
in the main room, and I came in in the morning and found him
already passed. While I was waiting for the coroner to pick up
his body, I went in to look at him, and felt the sweetest sense
of love all around me, like he was giving me a final "hug"
(he hadn't been able to do that for some time because of his
back). I had not been able to talk much about it because most
people would not understand. It is nice to be able to share that.
I feel he is around me a lot. Thanks for listening.
Name: Helen M. Fisher
I am so sorry for your loss, Debbie. I am of the opinion that
you have interpreted correctly the feeling of love that engulfed
you. It makes sense that your husband would come to you and surround
you with love. I understand about people not accepting what you
are trying to convey to them. Only those who have actually experienced
something of this nature can possible comprehend what you are
telling them, although people are beginning much more open to
this concept than in the past. Thank you for sharing your experience
with me and those who frequent this page. Peace and love, Helen.
Name: Ellen
Location: United Kingdom
Email: elly10@btinternet.com
I found your site whilst browsing. Someone had recommended you.
I have just recently lost my Mother 4 weeks ago. The feeling
of grief is unbearable, I keep thinking if she is in such a lovely
place why stay here? Why not go to her? But my dad is in terrible
grief too he needs me to help him. 2 nights before my mother
passed my dad said a man was in his bedroom, just stood watching
him. My dad panicked and shouted, and this man just faded away.
We don,t know who he was. Myself and my mum discusssed her coming
back to see me , but as yet nothing, maybe I am doing something
wrong or my grief is in the way. Reading other posts here has
helped me realise I,m not alone. Thank you for listening. Ellen.
Name: Helen M. Fisher
Dear Ellen, please accept my condolences on the Earthly loss
of your mother. Even though your mother has not made her presence
known, I have no doubt that she is nearby. Be patient in regards
to receiving some sort of sign from her. It often takes a long
time. In fact I have recently learned of a situation where it
was 20 years before a mother received a sign from her daughter.
When it came it was in the form of her daughter appearing to
her and that is worth waiting for. That is not to imply that
it will take that long for you, because it probably will not.
Do not expect something that will knock you off your feet. Instead
pay attention to small details, subtle happenings, as contact
is often made in this manner. Ask your mum to come to you at
night in your dreams. It is my understanding that visitation
dreams are often the easiest method for our loved ones to use
in order to break through to us. Please do not consider the possibility
of joining your mother. She would not want this for you, and
besides, it is possible you have some sort of mission to fulfill
during your time here on Earth, as I believe most of us have.
It is heartbreaking to have someone we dearly love to move on
to the other side, butwe should fight the impulse to join them
as this is not an option we should choose, and I am quite certain
our loved ones would not want us to. And, as my daughter has
transmitted to a family member whom she chastised for referring
to her in the past tense, "I have not gone anywhere."
Pay close attention, you may feel your mother's presence when
you least expect it. It is much a feeling of someone being behind
you but you haven't heard a sound, but you know someone is there.
Many people feel the sensation in their back or neck areas. Four
weeks is but a blink of an eye. Since you and your mum discussed
her coming back, I would guess she will at some point. Be aware
of what goes on around you. As for the man your father discened
two nights before your mother passed, he may have been a relative
who had already made his transition, who was waiting to help
your mother cross over into the other dimension.
Name: Debbie Alimentato
Location: Rochester, NY
Email: dalimentato@monroecc.edu
Web Site: www.samalimentato.homestead.com/greenribbon.html
Dear Helen, I wrote to you early on soon after my 16 year old
son Sam died from non-Hodgkins lymphoma on 12/22/00. I told you
the story of the birds and since then many other things have
happened to let me know that he is okay. On Christmas morning
about 3:00 a.m. I could not sleep and went into the living room
to try and lie down. My husband was already on one couch because
he had the same problem. I walked around the house in the dark
for 2 hours, looking out of the window and in deep grief. I finally
went into the kitchen and turned on the little nightlight and
went back to lie down and try to get some sleep. On the floor
was something sparkly and I knew what it was before I even picked
it up. It was Sam's Christmas ornament from his Nana and Papa.
He had opened it before he had passed. It was a blue and silver
drum with the inscription, To Sam, Christmas 2000, love, Nana
and Papa. There were only about 10 ornaments on the tree and
those people had given to us because I only put lights on the
Christmas tree. I could not believe it! It was a gift from Sam
telling me that it's okay mom, go back to sleep. Merry Christmas.
It's been almost 6 months since he's passed and he came to me
vividly in a dream last week. I was dreaming that I was in bed
sleeping and Sam was standing next to me on the side of the bed.
I yelled loudly, SAM! because I was so happy to see him. I even
thought I woke my husband up. He looked a little younger with
a head full of hair and he said, "I like it here, 'cept
I don't know what time it is." I told him it was 12:30 a.m.
and everyone was sleeping. He said, "okay" and left.
It was the first time I woke up and went to work happy. He talked
like that because I always corrected him to pronounciate his
words correctly. My husband hasn't dreamt about him because he
hasn't slept a full night since Sam's death but I think Sam found
another way to let his father know he's okay. Dave(my husband)
was at a junk yard and a butterfly flew down and rested on top
of an old heap of junk next to Dave. Dave was actually petting
the butterfly until a man came out of the office and the butterfly
flew away. I told him that I thought it was Sam. Thank you for
this website and letting us vent our ADC's. Debbie
Name: Helen M. Fisher
Dear Debbie, how nice to hear from you again. It is wonderful
that you have had a visitation dream from Sam. How that must
relieve your mind. I love the story about the Christmas ornament.
This was something you certainly didn't expect to find on the
floor, but there it was, and it held great meaning for you. These
are the significan happenings that we all hope to experience
after the loss of a loved ones. I also love the story of the
butterfly and your husband. Ordinarily butterflies would flutter
away if a person attemted to touch them. I would guess the butterfly
was sent by Sam to comfort his father. Thanks so much for sharing
these experiences with me and all those who frequent this page.
Peace and love, Helen
Name: Elisa Taylor
Location: Dallas, TX
Email: mec584@aol.com
In Aug 2000 my husband died suddenly at home, four days after
surgery. I want so desperately to know that he goes on, that
his spirit continues, but I am filled with such doubts. I haven't
had any communication from him. I wonder if he is heart broken
over leaving our daughter and me? I wonder where he is? Can he
hear me (us)?
Name: Helen M. Fisher
Dear Elisa, I am so sorry about the unexpected death of your
husband. You ask if he can hear you, I truly believe that, yes,
he can not only hear you but is also aware of all that happens
in your life. My belief is that there is only a thin veil that
separates our world from what I refer to as the Other Side--what
I often call a parallel universe. I think once a person goes
to that other side that perhaps they are aware of a bigger picture
of life and that they accept what has happened to them, and perhaps
why it has happened. I think what perhaps does bother them is
when those who have been left behind are in so much pain because
of the loss. It sometimes takes a long time before a sign is
sent, and sometimes it never happens. Though I am more inclined
to think that in many cases the signs sent have not been recognized
as such. Sometimes they are very subtle. Pay close attention
to your dreams--ask him to come to you in a dream--as I have
read this is the easiest way to make contact. And always remember,
not having communication from a loved one has nothing to do with
how much they loved us. I know of a woman who didn't have contact
with her daughter for many many years after she made her transition,
then one night she appeared to her mother. Do not give up hope
that communication will be made. Pay close attention to everything
around you, and especially those events that seem out of the
ordinary with no logical explanation as to why they have occurred.
Take care. Peace and love, Helen.
Name: Sherri E
Location: Los Angeles,Ca
Email: sheredwrds@aol.com
Dear Helen, Soon after I wrote you about the death of my Mother
(from Cancer) on 3/30/01 I did start to receive *signs*. A woman
from a messge board I frequent told me of a book that helped
her through her grieving process, it was called "Embracing
the light". A few days before Easter, I ordered this book
and had it mailed to my parents house in Las Vegas since that's
where I would be going through my Mothers things. It arrived
on *Good Friday*. I started to read it while my Father sat next
to me in another chair. I have to tell you that I didn't need
to get very far into the book before I was knocked for a loop.
My Mom had a very uncommon first name, but there on page 7 was
her name-Thelma. Turns out the author's sisters name was Thelma.
Now I thought to myself, there must be 100's of books written
about the after life and death and I can bet money that I could
search through all of those books and never find another one
with my Moms name in it. My Dad pointed out as well...page 7...my
Mom was buried April 7th. I tried to say *coincidence*, but my
mind kept saying "I don't think so". If you have ever
read this book you will know that the woman who wrote it died
and saw for herself what Heaven was like. It was if my Mom had
said "read this book and know that I am ok". This was
the one question my Father pondered over..."why can't they
come back and tell us they are ok?". Since then I woke to
a vision of my Mothers hand resting on my daughters belly while
sleeping. I , of course, did a double take and when I did the
vision was gone. She has come to me in about 4 dreams, she doesn't
look sick, nor exceptionally young, just like my healthy Mom.
But she doesn't seem to know that she has been gone. In all my
dreams I am aware that she is back from the dead yet I don't
ask her many questions. The 1st 3 dreams she never spoke and
has never looked *happy nor sad* she just has a serious but not
angry face. The most important dream came early one morning after
a very hard night of grieving. My husband had left for work and
I went back to sleep. I remember being asleep and feeling kisses
all over my face. I never opened my eyes but only said "oohh
that tickles (gleefully)", I knew when I woke that it was
my Mom. I knew it even when I was asleep. She has come to me
without my asking when I've needed her the most. Of course there
are times when I ask and she doesn't come...but on the occassions
that I feel such despair or I am worried about the baby and so
on...she comes. It took about 6 weeks for her to show in my dreams
and recently she finally spoke although it was only to call out
to me, but I heard her voice so clear and was able to hug her
and that made me feel so much better when I awoke. I also believe
that sometimes when we call for them and they don't come it's
because maybe they can't. Maybe it also causes them pain to hear
us call out and then them not be able to respond. So, I've learned
not to continually ask this of her. I am sure they are very busy
these days. I recently watched the movie "Defending your
life" I would like to believe that they go someplace like
in the movie where they can eat anything they want, they laugh,
they see past lives, they sleep and LIVE. And when they think
about us here on Earth..they miss us but it's OK...it's just
OK and them they smile. Thanks for having this website for me
to share my long winded story with you and the other people who
are grieving. There is a reason I found your site as well and
I'm sure one day I'll find out why. Big hugs, Sherri
Name: Helen M. Fisher
Dear Sherri,thank you for updating me on what is transpiring
in your life. I am so happy that you have been able to make contact
with your mother. I think you were definitely led to the book
Embraced by the Light, the same way I was led to the book about
medium George Anderson, We Don't Die. After our return from meeting
with George the book was no longer in the library where I found
it, nor was it in listed in their computer. Thanks so much for
sharing your experiences with me and those who frequent this
site. You are helping others in doing so. Peace and love, Helen.
